It’s a cardinal rule that when you’re pregnant, everyone knows you, your body, and your unborn child, maybe even better than you. When you give birth? It comes ten fold over, more experts on YOUR baby, and YOUR life. It’s literally exhausting, but it’s inevitable. For me right now, I’m pregnant, AND I have a toddler, and for some reason, EVERYONE has an opinion on EVERYTHING. I’m learning how to find my own voice, and not just learn it, trust it.
Not that I was or am a weak person, but it’s so much easier to ignore people before children. It doesn’t sting or impact you quite as much. After giving birth, the comments, complaints, and/or feedback come in at all angles, and you really have to learn how to find your own head and sift through the madness.
Sometimes it feels like I’m a kid again just trying to ignore nasty comments from bullies. I constantly feel like life is hard enough, why do people, and how do people even have the time to care about mine? I couldn’t imagine having the energy to even take notice to another parent/child’s faults and/or achievements. I have so much going on 24/7, I’m literally just trying to survive on a day to day basis, and would never spend my time thinking negatively about someone else. It’s not worth it, and downright rude. We are all in this together, and should just support that differences we have that make the world go round.
The thing is, you don’t have to be pregnant, or a parent to deal with the pressures and comments of society, it can happen to anyone. These days it can happen in a text message, facebook comment, instagram post, tweet. It’s hard to keep track of the commentary, but it is important to remember your own voice. The more I hear, the more people nag, the stronger I get. I like to use their insecurities and annoying comments as fuel to my fire. It’s not the most rewarding way to spend my time, but I do make a conscious effort to take each offensive word, and store it in my mind’s bank of strength. I am a woman, I am pregnant, I am a mother, hear me ROAR.
I don’t mean to sound passive, or negative in any way or tone, I just merely wanted to depict that 2017 is a really hard time to be alive in at times. I wanted you to know that I see you, and I hear you. Yes, you. The one questioning their choices and/or opinions just because “someone said something”. I am you, and I support you. YOU are the master of your own life, YOU are the parent of your own child, and YOU have the power to find strength within you when people try to tear you down. There will always be “those” people, but there will also always be ONE you. Remember, you have a voice, yell if you need to, but always trust your gut. The older you get, the less energy you have to waste, so breathe in only the positive forces, and be proud of everything that surrounds, and is you.
Namaste, and Rock On!